We need to be careful with our words.
This is something my heart has been contemplating for quite some time now. Sometimes my kids get to me. (Surprise!) They really are the epitome of my children. Loud, argumentative and stubborn to their very souls. And oh how I love them for it, adorable little creatures that they are. Sometimes.
But some days, I am overwhelmed and simply don’t want to answer another question. I don’t want to explain why something is the way it is. And I find myself using that famous mom end-all-be-all statement, “Because I said so, that’s why.” Or better yet, “I don’t care if you don’t want to [insert desired action here], just do it NOW!”
It’s always after the words have escaped my mouth when my brain registers what I’ve just said. I just told my child, “I don’t care.” I don’t care about your feelings. I don’t care about what you want or what you don’t want. I don’t care that you aren’t sleepy and don’t want to go to bed. I don’t care that you are now hungry at 9:30 at night because you were “too full” to eat all of your dinner. I. Don’t. Care.
But I do care.
I do care how these wonderful, amazing, loving little boys feel. I do care that they go to bed knowing they are loved and their needs met. I do care that they know I love them “the most times infinity” (that’s winning in their eyes).
What I don’t care for is my choice of words.
While I am absolutely not saying I should give into my children’s every whim (that would be ludicrous), I am saying that I should learn to be more careful with my words. I can be firm without jeopardizing my children’s feelings. I can still be every bit the authoritative mom I pride myself on being while also teaching my children a lesson in a positive way.
While actions still speak louder than words, words are and always will be extremely powerful. They can be methods of encouragement and empowerment or tools of despair and downfall. We should all learn to be a little more careful with them. With our children, our spouses and everyone around us.